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The most important thing she’d learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.
– Jill Churchill

Every mother will understand that feeling that you are failing at being a good mother in those moments where you cannot handle one more cry, scream, bicker, whinge, repetition, touch etc … and then the guilt sets in. Why do we feel this is it society pressure, personal pressure, keeping up appearances? I dont strive to be a perfect mother, I am too imperfect for that but I do hope, try and pray I am a good one …

This week I felt my ultimate fail at being a good mom – after bath time I was massaging olive oil into my son (almost 5yrs) very dry legs and he wanted to know why I was doing that. So feeling a little ‘Hansel & Gretel’ish I told him he was nice and fattened up now so it was time to cook him so I was just putting the oil on to get him ready ………… he started to cry ….. BAD MOMMY he actually believed I would cook and eat him!! Where is the trust that I love him and will always look after him!?

These illustrations came from: Grimm, Jacob and Wilhelm. The Fairy Tales of the Brothers Grimm. Mrs. Edgar Lucas, translator. Arthur Rackham, illustrator. London: Constable & Company Ltd, 1909.

Their dad has an after bath little wrapped in a towel ritual where Rafe is his boerewors and Kara is a skaapworsie and he plays he is going to put them in the oven … lots of giggles but obviously mom will really do it *sigh* it sucks always being the bad guy.

Kara (2½yrs) did offer to be the sacrificial lamb – she hates being left out of a cook up lol.
So back to the drawing board on how to be a good mom – 1st lesson no jokes about cooking if you are the witch in the story.

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