Earth Babies Blog

When I first thought of writing this blog I was thinking maybe I should just make Earth Babies the author and then people could look at Barbara and I and wonder who actually wrote it, but we have such distinct writing styles and really I am not embarrassed at all. So you can all look at me and wonder…

The topic of sex after birth and particularly natural child birth is a very sensitive one. Barbara and I have discusses blogging about this for a while. Today I got a delivery in the post which motivated me to actually write this, but we will get my delivery later. I can’t imagine one woman who has not wondered about the effect having a baby has had on her body, but most of us are too afraid to ask our partners if they feel a difference. I am sure any partner who values his life would not dare answer anything other than ‘No dear of course it has not made a difference’. Any deviation from this answer warrants castration with a blunt spoon. I know I never asked my husband when we were still together.

Nagging doubt, the general rock bottom sex drive that happens post kids, and server sleep deprivation can leave a woman feeling anything but sexy and actually rather vulnerable. I wonder if all these lost sex drives are off on a beach somewhere enjoying themselves, maybe they are with the missing socks, unlikely combination but you know anything is possible. Or perhaps they just go and find some teenager to torment.

Slogan like ’save the beaver have a caesar’ don’t help much either. There is even a Facebook group dedicated to this! I have seen some pretty vicious nasty debates on the topic thrown around parenting chat forums. The truth is that it actually does not matter what type of birth you have the process of pregnancy, vaginal birth , aging, being over weight and major abdominal surgery such as cesarean section, often result in the weakening of the pelvic floor muscles. During pregnancy woman are all told to exercise this group of muscles, commonly known as Kegel exercises, and because it can be done discreetly you can do it while waiting in a queue in the bank, driving, sitting at your desk at work, brushing your teeth, you can even do them while talking to your church minister! In fact the idea is to have one set place that you always do them, like when brushing your teeth as they then become part of your normal routine, but if you are anything like me you forget.

The aim of Kegel exercises is to build up muscle tone by strengthening the pubococcygeus muscles of the pelvic floor. Kegel exercises are said to be good for treating vaginal prolapse and preventing uterine prolapse. They may be beneficial in treating urinary incontinence and best of all also increase sexual gratification.

This article explains Kegels’s in deatail How to strengthen pelvic floor muscles

At home school group this week we got talking about sex and natural birth and one of the moms talked about the Ben Wa Balls otherwise known as Luna Ball, geisha ball, love balls. She was just saying how they really do help and that your control of your orgasm is better and can even lead to multiple orgasms.

I decided to get some, seemed worth a try and these are what I got

I ordered on line from Matilda’s the services was very good and they arrived the next day. See me as your own blogging guinea pig, once I have tried them out I will let you know how easy they are to use.

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